I always press “Like.” But privately, I feel left behind in what Vanity Fair described last August as a “dating apocalypse.” Of course, plenty of single men and women like me don’t seek out one-night stands.But I feel like, in the dating-app era, many aren’t keen on investing lots of quality time in any particular match when a better one might be a swipe away.Still, with so many other people in their twenties on dating apps, she figured she might as well give online dating a chance.She created an account on Ok Cupid and set a challenge for herself: she would go on three dates. She actually did go on a date with a guy she met on Twitter through a mutual friend, and she met and bonded with one of her current friends through Words With Friends.“I’m only good for getting drunk and having sex,” he said.
I started to wonder: Is there really a commitment problem among people my age?
We stood in the warm Southern California night under suburban streetlights: Myself and a bespectacled entertainment writer/director with a boyish face, whom I met on Tinder.
Dinner had started off strong, with talk of sci-fi over salads, but quickly unraveled around issues of life goals and values.
Three chances to give it a shot before she made a judgement about whether or not she liked online dating. Rather than meeting good matches, she found herself with people she would never have decided to go out with if she had met them in person first, because they had nothing in common. Something about the context of online dating platforms just didn’t click with her.
What’s more, the amount of inappropriate and sometimes downright degrading messages she would get from guys was enough to turn her off dating services. The context felt too much like you were selling yourself to strangers. She decided to adopt a “just say yes” attitude–now, when opportunities for exciting and unusual experiences arose in real life, she would throw herself in head-first, just so see what happens.